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Behind the Bedroom Door

5/16/2017

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Sensuality is the topic where I get the most wildly divergent reader feedback. Last month I got an email from a reader that said: 
​I admired your avoidance of anachronisms and your dignified handling and acknowledgment of physical, carnal desires and drives. Truthful yet clean. Very good writing.
 On the other hand, a reviewer on amazon said of the same book: 
Sadly lacking in sexual tension & heat. The H & H never evn have sex. We're not even treated to a wedding night scene. No sure I would buy another of this author's books. I was waiting & waiting & then NOTHING!​
But another reviewer's opinion (still the same book) was: 
Too racy!  

What's a girl to do?

Yes, there are content rating sites and many readers are advocates for those. Occasionally I will promote my books on content rated sites. However, as a reader, I've discovered that the books I find this way aren't the ones I end up loving. Sometimes I'm left feeling bitter and cheated, because I disagreed with the posted content rating. Other times the story felt insipid, as if the characters, constrained by the rating scale, were unable to be themselves. And, in all honesty, I don't love to read about perfect people. Mr. Darcy excepted. Except even he is allowed his one flaw. 
When I think about it, if I didn't let my characters do things I wouldn't (like commit adultery, kidnap children or lie) my books wouldn't be that interesting. And if I start down the path of 'how much is too much? I don't want to offend!' I end up fraught and exhausted by hairsplitting. For instance: 
Should damn, bastard and Good Lord! be considered profanity? If I write Good Lord! That damn bastard! those four words have earned a moderate rating on some sites, and frankly, I don't tally those up as I write. I've always felt they are period expressions, like "Gadzooks!" but less affected. 
As a reader, I've enjoyed (so called) sweet and smutty romances, and I like both when the story is good, the characters compelling, and the dialogue fun. Honestly, the latter qualities are more important to me, but I love when a writer can melt me into a puddle without play-by-play action.
​Like Winston Graham does with Ross Poldark and Demelza and those infernal dress hooks running up her back. 
'I lied,' she whispered, crying again. 'I liked about the hooks'...
He said nothing, for now nothing counted, not lies nor poets nor principles nor any reservations of mind or heart. He released her and lit another candle.  
Generally, my books reflect my own preference for 'fade to black' lovemaking. I'm okay with that, largely because my daughter and her friends read my books. Maybe that's not a very artistic reason, but it's what I'm comfortable with.
So, readers. If I've written stuff you aren't comfortable with, or that's disappointing, I'm sorry. If content ratings are important to you, please use sites like My Book Cave or Fussy Librarian (but don't blame me if you get stung!). And I'll just keep writing love stories. Really, is there any other kind?
4 Comments
Heidi Robbins link
6/13/2017 02:24:06 pm

It's honestly impossible to please everyone, so the priority goes to pleasing yourself (and your publisher). It is important to write for your target audience, but even within that there is range of what people are picky about or looking for. If I'm looking to try a new-to-me author that is indie published or not with a publisher whose content standards I'm familiar with, I'll be sure to read reviews to get an idea of what I can expect.

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Jaima
6/13/2017 02:45:58 pm

So true!

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Janet Graham
11/5/2017 11:56:04 am

Moderation always works for me. I want that bedroom door closed, but hugs and kisses are good.
The 1930 movies did it well, as do our British cousins - just fade to black.
Many readers are looking for essentially porn - and I won't read or buy those authors. Ever. Even if they write a 'sweet romance'. I refuse to support it.
I had an author who had written several books that I enjoyed. Her next newsletter talked about how she was so proud of stretching her limits (at her publisher's urging) to write graphic sex scenes in her next novel. I sent her a note to tell her why I was no longer her customer. I won't support it.

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Jaima Fixsen
11/7/2017 10:07:55 am

Thanks Janet! Appreciate your encouragement to stand by my guns--and I admire you for standing by yours. When I read your comment I felt grateful that as a self-published author I can write what I choose without pressure to meet 'industry standards'.

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